Installment VII of Cheating Hubby’s from True Story magazine, circa 1920.
In this post, you’ll get the Top 10 Reasons for Husbands to Cheat—in accordance to a study done on 792 married couples. Read on—you’ll never guess what #4 is & #7 will shock you!
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A SOLUTION?
You can do much to help a husband who has Don Juan Syndrome by building up his ego, so that he has greater confidence. Find things you can sincerely admire in his business or trade skill, in his virtues as a husband, in his personality, in his zest as a lover. Tell him about them frequently. If you can diminish his inferiority feelings, he will feel less need to fight against them by seeking reassurance in a series of sexual affairs. However, if your husband does not respond to your remedies, don’t blame yourself. If your husband recognizes his own failings, and is anxious to get rid of them, psychiatric treatment will help.
What about the husband who is guilty of a serious, prolonged affair with another woman—first-degree infidelity? Here you have a major problem on your hands, because this husband’s deepest emotions are involved. “In my opinion,” declares Judge I. Montefiore of N.Y.C. Domestic Relations Court, “the other woman is almost invariably the symptom of an already ailing marriage.”
The fault may be, and probably is, on *both sides* (Remember this if you are ever the offender.). But the remedy is *usually* up to the wife, because she has the most to *gain* as a rule, from preserving her marriage. (Thank you, God, for Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan, and the 60′s.)
“When a wife finds that there is another woman in her husband’s life, Dr. Popenoe advises, “her first action should be, not to treat the symptom, but to find the cause—to find out what this other woman means to her husband; and then remove the cause. It’s the easiest way, often the only way.”
The misunderstood husband who pours out his woes to another woman, and accepts her sympathy as love, is a classic figure. Any man who goes to the trouble of taking a mistress, rather than *simply* being promiscuous, obviously is emotionally dissatisfied with his marriage. His wife may know why. If she does, she can best eliminate the other women by eliminating from her marriage the things that drove her husband to become unfaithful.
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If she isn’t sure, it might help her to analyze herself in the light of the ten leading reasons for “Husband-Resentment.” According to a California study of 792 married couples, in order of importance, these are as follows—Look at #6 & #9:
1.) My wife nags me all the time.
2.) She isn’t affectionate enough.
3.) We always have to do what she wants.
4.) She interferes with my hobbies. (My wife tried talking to me while building a model airplane, so I decided to have sex with the girl down the block.)
5.) She let herself go; she’s slovenly.
6.) She spoils the kids.
7.) She thinks she’s terrific.
8.) Nothing I do pleases her.
9.) She neglects the kids.
10.) She’s a rotten housekeeper.
In short, you have a better chance getting cheated on if you spoil the kids than if you neglect them, as this list is ordered in the things husbands resent most—thus, of course, driving them into the arms of another woman, or several other women.
Looking at #7 alone, it’s no wonder why the self-help genre is wildly popular. As women, we may overlook the idea that it IS okay to think you’re pretty terrific and it IS okay to even consider yourself good-looking and smart!
We want to know—how many of you have been put down by a man for thinking well of yourself?
Do you think it still happens, and if so, to what extent? Do you think it’s less common today, or the same & do you think that list is still relevant?
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today i am married to a terrfic guy. but my first husband divorce me the reason why was he use to pick up veal cutlet sub on fridays and he told me he was divorce me because i always complain there wasnt enough sauce on the veal cutlet sandwhich and i talk to my mother too much on the telephone . that the story he gave me. the real reason was he had a girlfriend and he wanted out of this marraige and he could,nt come up with a better excuse June
Wow, I love True Romance magazine. To comment on this is difficult, because I think husbands will cheat to see what sex might be like with someone else, in other words, curiousity! I bet they want things that their wife will just not do done to them, sorry for my naughty mind but anyway, that is what I think!!!!
In my experience there are only two main reasons why spouses divorce. One, infidelity. Two, money issues. Infidelity is self explanatory. If your are married you are to be faithful. Why else marry? If you want your cake and eat it to, then keep on dating don’t get married. As for money issues, money is replacable not your marriage. If the two of you stick together through the ruff times, then the good times will be that much better. If your spouse leaves you due to money problems, then that tells you that money means more to them than your marriage. Good Luck and God bless.
It still happens one hundred percent in many cases, but is less common with so many women being more independent today and therefore leaving men with fewer choices; they have to accept or go. And two of the most obvious and common scenarios, in my opinion, are in the areas of voting and churches. Men say things like, “Why should I go vote if my wife is going to cancel it with her vote?” and “I need to find us a church to take the kids to.” And to disagree as a wife, in their minds, means you don’t give them credit for knowing anything or for being a good “leader.” They ignore the fact that THEIR failure to include your input as equally important is the same thing, and is a failure to acknowledge your worth. NEITHER of you is obligated to go to the other’s church or to vote similarly, if you feel like doing otherwise, even though open discussion is good as long as neither thinks the other is obligated to agree. Different views should be accepted as totally normal, without regard to whether or not the two are married. So, don’t become entangled with a man who does not believe in equality, and you will be helping to cut down on the extent to which this kind of thing happens.
They want their cake and eat it too.