Here it is.
I want you to think about a married couple as two individuals, as two worlds, because most times those two people get lumped into one, in every sense. We do it to them, and they do it to themselves. Their individual personalities become lost through this.
But before we get to that, lets ask ourselves if these individuals are whole people. What I mean by this is: Have they gotten over the hurts from their past before entering in this marriage. These hurts can be related to childhood, or past relationships. If these issues aren’t dealt with before marriage, these hurts are going to be the root of many unforeseen arguments/problems. Now, think about two worlds that are at war with each other. How is that going to work?
When a person is whole I believe that person is over the uneventful past. That person is strong enough to be on their own, be okay about, and be comfortable about who they are and what’s happened to them.
I’m not sure if we’ve ever accomplished this as humans. We’ve done away with the windmills, but we’re still harping on the bad stuff that has happened to us. I don’t think adults actually exist, we’re just all children that never the bad, so we clamp onto other people (marriage) so that we don’t have to deal with ourselves. Then we sit around in wonderment asking our friends why everyone seems to be getting divorced.
And in a sense being a child within is a beautiful thing. I strive on seeing the world through a child’s eyes, this being a positive aspect of being a child. And for some reason we’ve dropped the positive for the negative.
What I’m trying to say is, we have to allow ourselves to grow into the best people we can be. I’m not a little tea pot, I’m a bottle of wine, and I’m only coming out when I taste really really good.
Now imagine all the good times the two peaceful worlds will have together. All those great vacations, and dinners, and walks, and what ever. And the key word in that sentence is, “two.” Because there are two people in a marriage. When we put a puzzle together, the two pieces connect, they don’t over-lap each other.
