Posts Tagged ‘Husband’

My Visit From Beyond

Monday, April 5th, 2010

He Still Watches Over Me

I lost my dearest friend when my husband passed away. We’d shared many joyous occasions and overcame many obstacles in our happy years together. My husband was always the strong one in the family, and someone everyone depended on. I feel his strength and spirit guiding me even now, so I am not truly alone.

We’ve had a man coming to our house for over twenty years to clean the gutters and leaders of leaves that have accumulated, and to do other outdoor jobs. I never have to call him. He appears at my door every spring and fall like clockwork. In all the years that he’s been coming here, he has never come in August.

One Monday in August, my doorbell rang. The worker told me that I had weeds growing in my gutters. Evidently, there was soil in the gutters, birds dropped seeds in, and the weeds started to grow. I live on a street that’s off the beaten track, so I don’t know how he knew about the weeds. I told him to clean the leaders and gutters again.

There’s a large bush in between my front door and the garage door. When cleaning the gutter over the bush, a yellow jacket bee stung him. He said that there was a hive nesting between the gutter and the shingles of the roof. I called the exterminator, who killed the bees and broke up the hive.

A bee stung me many years ago and I found I was allergic to bee stings. The doctor told me to carry an EpiPen with me at all times. If I were to be stung again, I was to use the pen and go to the emergency room at the nearest hospital immediately. The second bee sting could kill me.

I never would’ve seen the beehive that was found so close to my front door. A bee could’ve followed me into the house without my knowing it.

What made the worker come to my house in August when he’d never done so before? What prompted him to clean the leaders and the gutters an extra time that year?

I truly feel that my husband alerted the worker in some way, and that my husband is always watching over me. The bond we had for over forty-six years together cannot be broken because one of us is no longer there. I still feel my husband’s love and protection. My love and devotion to him is everlasting.

—Dorothy Rose Seiden, New York

Learn the Mathematical Formula to Cheating!

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

Over the past few months, I’ve done a series entitled Cheating Hubby’s, circa 1920. Little did I know how relevant these postings would be. Tiger Woods and Jesse James, to name the worst.

Every online news source provides some web link to an interview with a mistress, or new insight into the affair. How can these women not know their husbands are making cuckolds of them left, right, and center? I ask myself. Reading up on the subject, I obtained several books outlining how to spot a cheater, why a man cheats, and how to gather evidence of the indiscretion.

These books and articles are ambiguous at best. The supposed signs are basic human behaviors. Dropping one’s voice or taking a call in another room is what I would consider as being polite as to not disturb one’s partner with the heinous conversation he’s about to have with his mother. Picking fights, depending on how aggressive someone is, seems pretty typical of tired people struggling to make ends meet in a pay-cut heavy, surging unemployed economy. There’s also claims that if a man turns the infidelity accusation on you, it’s proof positive of an affair, however, if the roles were reversed, we’d all do the exact same thing.

How do you know if your spouse is cheating? Short of catching them in the act, finding an incriminating text (which you probably won’t because anyone committed to lying to you on a daily basis is going to delete any such evidence rather than keep it around as an electronic memento), or going through their personal bank account records—which you won’t get access to—there’s no magical way.

Just assume that they are cheating, and two-thirds of you will be correct. It also comes down to simple mathematics. However many females between the ages of 18 and 60 that your husband has interaction with increases the likelihood. The amount of power your spouse has at work, coupled with salary also raises the selfishness. Lying about small things means they lie about big things. Even if they’re not cheating, you can bet good money that they make comments to their friends about other women’s attributes and their desires to educate themselves further on such anatomy, disparage you to look cool, and call you a b#*@! behind your back.

As to why they cheat, the frisky wrote up a list 25 reasons why men cheat. It’s the best for listing reasons such as: He wants to find out what it’s like to pay for it.  He thought he could get away with it. And my personal fave, He let her talk him into it.

Remember When Wednesdays

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

As the last installment of “Cheating Husbands” has been wrapped up, there’s much to reflect on. Written in 1920, just one year after women were permitted to vote in this country! It’s truly no wonder why so much blame was heaped onto women.

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Especially when one considers the fact that the Mormon Church still allowed the practice of polygamy—until 1935! It’s not rocket science why equal rights for women took decades, and is still an issue that sparks controversy in America, and in nearly every other country.

The idea that women are inferior to men remains rooted in traditions, like  in weddings. That famous last line the clergymen says: “I now pronounce you man and wife.”

It’s a minor detail that goes unnoticed by most, but once you actually pay attention to the words, it’s impossible, as a woman, to be pleased that such discrepancies in equality are still passed around so freely. Some parsons do say “husband and wife,” and to them we tip our hat and say thank you.

What little ways have you noticed inequality in everyday life? Is it still a man’s world? Tell us your thoughts!!

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