Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

A Friend Of One’s Heart

Sunday, April 4th, 2010

When one thinks of love and relationships the mind typically lingers off to the romantics side of town. But I would like to take a moment for those other relationships that equally matter, (if not more) such as relationships among, friends, siblings, and parents.

 If a house is never dusted, at some point it will be filthy. This accumulation of filth will come along so slowly, that once it’s in place, it will be most hard to detect when it arrived. It’s probably best to keep on cleaning to avoid such mishaps. I guess relationships work the same way, no? It all requires work really. The whole thing. But, this is the type of work that will pay off if one is willing to take the time to do so.  

If you haven’t spoken to a loved one for some time due to the normal business of life, that’s alright, but it’s not alright to ignore that once you realize it. Schedule time in, it’s that easy.

What about the — ah, we hardly have anything in common anymore — problem. At such points one must jump into their handy time machine and remember why the two of you are friends in the first place. And as for family, remember the good, and if there isn’t any, imagine the future good, it’s never too late really, until it is, but let’s not take the morbid route.

A few things that can be done to patch things up are: For one, take interest in what ever interests the enemy, I mean, loved one. At times an interest is all it takes. If mom is an avid church/temple/whatever goer, gulp, it may not kill you to make a surprise appearance.

  If sister likes chocolate macadamia cookies, get to baking, and crash her place with a smile with cookies in hand as a peace offering.

If an old friend has moved across the bloody country, (How dare she/he) send a hand written card, hand written says  a lot in these days of technology. I am quite annoyed that none of my friends ever write me any hand written letters.

I hate to quote the same movie in one week, who are we trying to kid, I don’t mind at all. “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.”-Moulin Rouge. When you think about it, everything else should come last when it comes to people that matter.

Women Are Wonderful

Monday, February 8th, 2010

Women Are Wonderfil

An Aunt’s Love

My aunt has had a great impact on my life. When I was a small child, we lived close to her. She worked hard even then. Her husband was an alcoholic who spent his money only on things he wanted, and to get drunk. All the money that my aunt made was used to care for their four children. That didn’t stop her from spending her time with them, or her nieces and nephews. I’m sure I’m not the only one in my family that has fond memories of spending time with her.

We moved away when I was eight years old and I didn’t see her for over twenty years. When one of my uncles became ill, we decided that we should get together. I found out that she’s still the same wonderful woman that I remembered.

Several years ago I got divorced and I decided to move closer to my aunt. My son and I spent a great deal of time with her. He got the chance to know the wonderful aunt that I had known. He came to love her as I had so long ago. He still talks about all the things she told him and about the times they shared. Now that we no longer live nearby, she misses us and wants us to visit.

In her I found the friend that I guess I needed for a long time. When something was upsetting me, she would hold and comfort me. Because of her I am happy. My aunt taught me that I had to let go of the past.

Thank you for teaching me to be happy and for being there for me. I love you!

—Lisa Johnson, Kentucky

Let Letty Help: Your new (and old) relationship, dating and love advice column. By Letty Livingston

Tuesday, December 8th, 2009

Greetings True Readers,
Many of you have been reading my acclaimed advice column Let Letty Help for years in True Romance magazine. I also write The D Files, which also appears in true Romance. The D Files are essays about the life and times of an advice columnist and sexpert. By the telling of my interactions with, and within, my circle of friends and family relationship lessons can be gathered.

For those of you who don’t know my work or me, please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Letty Livingston and besides being a stylish and sophisticated girl-about-town, I am a relationship counselor, advice and sex columnist, and an online (and offline) dating coach. I have been dishing the dirt on sex, love and relationships for the better part of a decade; coming to the conclusion that no matter one’s age, gender, geographic, socioeconomic or cultural situation, we all want the same thing; to find and keep the special someone that appreciates us for who we truly are.

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