Okay, Letty gets a wee bit of venting time here: Why does anyone ask any other advice columnist anything about anything having to do with love and relationships? I just read the latest Advicemama column, and she is not only dull, she is not incisive. The question was about how long to wait before letting your ex have your kids around his new SO [significant other]. This woman has a man who is still with the last woman he cheated on her with, and he has their kids all up and around this woman. The mother said the kids are young. She didn’t tell their age. I think that the advice advicemama gave was weak, at best. She said to wait six months after the divorce of the parents to introduce the kids to the new lover.
Um, really? Even if the situation is like this one, where the man is going to leave his wife and stay with the woman he left his children’s mother for? These two aren’t even divorced yet! Yeah, I know! Right. They aren’t divorced, and he already has her kids around this woman. That’s wrong in so many ways. Six months is a long time to a high schooler, but to an adult, six months is no time at all to know if the new person is going to be able to meld cohesively into the family. It isn’t even enough time for a person without kids to know enough about someone new. I mean, come on. Advicemama, take some advice and don’t help people screw things up. Waiting for kids to heal and become okay takes longer than six months. I want all the people who commented on her AOL page to come to my advice column at www.fixmylove.com. My Let Letty Help column is the real deal!
Ah, I feel so much better. I am not going to pussyfoot; I have some serious business going on in this D File. Bea dropped a bomb in the last edition, and now there is a plan in the works to find a person who may—or may not—want to be found.
That’s it. Read on. And let us know what you’d do.
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