Be kind to your husband. Don’t shock him by smearing your face with a heavy, greasy night cream. Choose a protective cream that is quickly absorbed and leaves you looking lovely while it effectively works away to prevent dry skin. This rule holds true for your hands, too. Always use a greaseless lotion or cream. Just before you hop  into bed enjoy the luxury of dabbing perfume or liquid sachet behind your ears and at the base of your throat. Be sure the scent matches your body cologne. You’ll float off to dreamland in style.

During the day, while you are doing your housework, make it a point to look neat and presentable. Then you won’t have to run for cover if a neighbor drops in or tradespeople interrupt you in the middle of your chores. It’s a good idea to hang a mirror in the kitchen with a shelf or drawer that can be stocked with a small beauty kit for emergencies; hand lotion for before and after dishwashing and messy chores; a comb, a compact and lipstick for a quick slick-up job. Keep two pairs of household gloves in the drawer.

This new type of latex mitt is specially designed to hug your wrists so that water doesn’t seep in on your hands. Yet, you have perfect flexibility of your fingers when you are laundering or dishwashing. To protect your manicure while dusting or using the vacuum, don a pair of of cotton gloves.

Steal as little as twenty minutes daily to relax. You have to protect your good disposition as well as your looks. Let this be your yardstick for success: When the boys ask your husband, “Who was that dream we saw you with last night?” His proud answer will, of course, be, “That lady was my wife!”

Keep beauty in your marriage

BY Dorris Ellis

Love is a beautifier. Your marriage should grow more beautiful each year if you never loose sight of the thing that brought  you together—you’re attraction for each other.

If your husband thinks you are a good cook, that’s wonderful. If he thinks you are a good housekeeper, that’s wonderful, too. But, if he continues to think you are the nicest person to be with, that’s the most wonderful thought of all.

When you are single your beauty habits are unusually locked in the privacy of your own room. Once you marry, you acquire a roommate. Unless you learn to adjust your beauty routine to this new life, your husband will think he’s a one-man audience who wandered backstage. A little thoughtfulness on your part will help to preserve the illusion of your glamour. Here are some suggestions that may help:

Let’s talk about getting ready for sleep. Never be too busy or too tired to neglect your evening bath. This is the time to apply a mild deodorant and follow it with a soothing rubdown with your favorite cologne.

To read more tips, click below.

Choose a fresh, attractive nightgown. If you prefer pajamas make sure they are cut on feminine lines. Mannish-looking pajamas are fine for a single girl to wear. But you are married now, and a husband would rather see his wife wearing something dainty and feminine. When you are through in the bathroom, give it a thorough inspection to make sure everything is in spic-and-span order before your husband takes over. That’s a subtle way to encourage him to be just  as neat and considerate  as you are.

If you have to set your hair every night, it might be disillusioning to your husband to see you with a headful of hardware. Use a lightweight hairnet over your pins (it was much better to look like you are about to start flipping burgers apparently) , curlers or clips to keep them in place; then keep them out of sight with either of these cover-ups.  1.) A piece of pastel tulle would around your head and tied in a frivolous, frothy bow. Like a closely knit turban or a quaint lacy sleep cap tied with satin ribbon chin straps.

How do you look without makeup? Unless you are so devoid of natural color that you look frightening, don’t be overly vain and feel that you must wear makeup whenever you are with your husband. If you have an excessively sallow complexion and colorless lips and feel self-conscious about your appearance in the morning, the author actually suggests  putting makeup on before going to bed!

She recommends: outline your lips with a special formula pink lipstick that will not smear, so as to add a blush of color and won’t come off on he bed linen.

Last installment gave the Top 10 list of why husbands cheat. Now we have the author’s advice on how to go about putting those *suggestions* into action!

In case you didn’t catch those reasons (which came from married men living in California in 1920), they are relisted below.

1.) My wife nags me all the time.

2.) She isn’t affectionate enough.

3.) We always have to do what she wants.

4.) She interferes with my hobbies. (My wife tried talking to me while building a model airplane, so I decided to have sex with the girl down the block.)

5.) She let herself go; she’s slovenly.

6.) She spoils the kids.

7.) She thinks she’s terrific.

8.) Nothing I do pleases her.

9.) She neglects the kids.

10.) She’s a rotten housekeeper.

Read what our 1920′s True Story journalist recommends for overcoming that Top 10 List! Ladies, next time you can’t think of a good icebreaker topic while out with a new acquaintance (who, if female, will greatly appreciate it) or just a cute guy at a restaurant/bar, (who’ll also get quite a kick at your knowledge of such antiquities) just bring up some of the above reasons why husband cheated in 1920 and ask yourself and whomever if any of those reasons actually still do simmer under the surface of even the most liberal-minded of men.

While it would be extremely wise to spruce up in any of these departments where you know you’re weak, you don’t have to lose sight of the fact that moral law is on your side. “The husband must give up the other woman,” insists Dr. Lena Levine, well-known psychiatrist and marriage counselor. “The family must come above all else. First the husband must recognize his feeling toward the other woman as something perfectly normal that could happen to anyone in our fluid society. Then he must deny that feeling. His reward for his denial will be his sense of power such as he has never felt before.”

If you feel hopeless to cope with the problem of the other woman by yourself, by all means, seek help from  your minister, a marriage counselor, or any of the family agencies we have mentioned. They can give you skilled personal guidance in tackling the problem, and in may cases, can do a direct job of rehabilitating your husband for you. They are anxious to help you, because they are anxious to prevent divorce.

No matter what the degree of your husband’s infidelity, or how much it may hurt you, don’t let your outraged pride or despair rush you into a hasty divorce or separation. If you do, you’ll probably regret it. A reformed husband is a thousand times better than an ex-husband. Better  and wiser.

It should b emphasized again that no wife should jump to any wild conclusions about her husband without solid grounds for suspicion.  Since almost two out of every three husbands are faithful, you have every reason to take it for granted  that he is loyal to you. You’ll probably be right. If you aren’t, remember the *degrees*  of infidelity: the temporary episode, promiscuity, and the other woman (Women had to go to bed telling themselves something.) Don’t punish a minor offense too harshly. And to keep him faithful in the future, match your remedies to the special  causes of his kind of infidelity. Seek help if you need it.

This was written years before a *nervous breakdown* was the norm for married women and after reading this series, who can wonder why?

Next week—The Final Installment of Cheating Husbands!

As always, we love to hear your comments! And thank you, June, for your comments!

]]> http://mytruelovestory.com/2010/01/13/2632/feed/ 1 http://mytruelovestory.com/2009/12/30/remember-when-wednesdays-3/ http://mytruelovestory.com/2009/12/30/remember-when-wednesdays-3/#comments Wed, 30 Dec 2009 16:59:35 +0000 Nicky http://mytruelovestory.com/?p=2424 Installment VII of Cheating Hubby’s from True Story magazine, circa 1920.

In this post, you’ll get the Top 10 Reasons for Husbands to Cheat—in accordance to a study done on 792 married couples. Read on—you’ll never guess what #4 is & #7 will shock you!

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A SOLUTION?

You can do much to help a husband who has Don Juan Syndrome by building up his ego, so that he has greater confidence. Find things you can sincerely admire in his business or trade skill, in his virtues as a husband, in his personality, in his zest as a lover. Tell him about them frequently. If you can diminish his inferiority feelings, he will feel less need to fight against them by seeking reassurance in a series of sexual affairs. However, if your husband does not respond to your remedies, don’t blame yourself. If your husband recognizes  his own failings, and is anxious to get rid of them, psychiatric treatment will help.

What about the husband who is guilty of a serious, prolonged affair with another woman—first-degree infidelity? Here you have a major problem on your hands, because this husband’s deepest emotions are involved. “In my opinion,” declares Judge I. Montefiore of N.Y.C. Domestic Relations Court, “the other woman is almost invariably the symptom of an already ailing marriage.”

The fault may be, and probably is, on *both sides* (Remember this if you are ever the offender.). But the remedy is *usually* up to the wife,  because she has the most to *gain* as a rule, from preserving her marriage. (Thank you, God, for Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan, and the 60′s.)

“When a wife finds that there is another  woman in her husband’s life, Dr. Popenoe advises, “her first action should be, not to treat the symptom, but to find the cause—to find out what this other woman means to her husband; and then remove the cause. It’s the easiest way, often the only way.”

The misunderstood husband who pours out his woes to another woman, and accepts her sympathy as love, is a classic figure. Any man who goes to the trouble of taking a mistress, rather than *simply* being promiscuous, obviously  is emotionally dissatisfied with his marriage. His wife may know why.  If she does, she can best eliminate the other women by eliminating from her marriage the things that drove her husband to become unfaithful.

Click below for the Top 10 REASONS HUSBANDS CHEAT

TOP 10 LIST  BELOW:

If she isn’t sure, it might help her to analyze herself in the light of the ten leading reasons for “Husband-Resentment.” According to a California study of 792 married couples, in order of importance, these are  as follows—Look at #6 & #9:

1.) My wife nags me all the time.

2.) She isn’t affectionate enough.

3.) We always have to do what she wants.

4.) She interferes with my hobbies. (My wife tried talking to me while building a model airplane, so I decided to have sex with the girl down the block.)

5.) She let herself go; she’s slovenly.

6.) She spoils the kids.

7.) She thinks she’s terrific.

8.) Nothing I do pleases her.

9.) She neglects the kids.

10.) She’s a rotten housekeeper.

In short, you have a better chance getting cheated on if you spoil the kids than if you neglect them, as this list is ordered in the things husbands resent most—thus, of course, driving them into the arms of another woman, or several other women.

Looking at #7 alone, it’s no wonder why the self-help genre is wildly popular. As women, we may overlook the idea that it IS okay to think you’re pretty terrific and it IS okay to even consider yourself good-looking and smart!

We want to know—how many of you have been put down by a man for thinking well of yourself?

Do you think it still happens, and if so, to what extent? Do you think it’s less common today, or the same & do you think that list is still relevant?

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]]> http://mytruelovestory.com/2009/12/30/remember-when-wednesdays-3/feed/ 5 http://mytruelovestory.com/2009/12/23/remember-when-wednesdays-2/ http://mytruelovestory.com/2009/12/23/remember-when-wednesdays-2/#comments Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:00:47 +0000 Nicky http://mytruelovestory.com/?p=2334 Installment VI of Cheating Hubby’s from True Story magazine, circa 1920.

I know one husband who walked out on a wild stag party of his friends, thrown by an all-male club. He was the only man among twenty present who refused to have intercourse with ladies of the evening who were brought to the party for that purpose.

“I value my marriage too much,” he told me, “to cheapen it by a few seconds of pointless pleasure. I wouldn’t want it on my conscience. It wouldn’t have been worth the psychological damage it would have done to me. I think there were other husbands who felt as I did, but they were afraid of being ridiculed by the ‘boys’ if they refused.”

Since roughly one out of three husbands doesn’t have such a high code of ethics, let’s analyze the principal reasons for infidelity, and what can be done about them.

The husband who is guilty of third-degree—unfaithful only once, or at rare intervals—is often a *victim* of circumstances. It isn’t easy for a husband who’s alone to keep his sexual urges in check. His fall from grace is usually due less to his desire for other women than for sexual relief.

(Wow. This is hard to swallow. I always thought it was easier for men to keep the urges in check when alone. The hard part came when the husband found a willing partner—either by chance, or by design.)

If he drinks more than he intended, his moral sense may become blurred. (I suppose only men were/are subject to this very convenient excuse?) He can become intoxicated even faster by a heady perfume and the seductive arts of a prostitute. It takes a great deal of willpower to resist the open invitation of adventurous bachelor girls, widows, or divorcees out for excitement. (With such a laissez-faire attitude on cheating, it’s a wonder any couples during this era ever stayed faithful to one another!) From a moral point of view, it is certainly regrettable that any husband would allow himself to be seduced.

The writer actually continues to say that “if a husband has such a lapse, it would be charitable to consider that he was more sinned against than sinning. Particularly if he is properly and sincerely repentant.
Stay tuned next week for Installment VII of Cheating Hubby’s!!

The resolution to Carol’s dilemma! Does she take the poor advice she’s been given by the media? You may be surprised to learn how she behaves. Read below to find out.

Overwhelmed by remorse, Carol set about becoming the perfect wife. She didn’t want a divorce or even a showdown. All she wanted was the exclusive right to her husband. So she was careful not to nag. She flattered her husband whenever she could. She paid less attention to the children, more to him. She went to the beauty parlor, and she bought new clothes. She kept the house spotless. She cooked him succulent dishes.

He was quite pleased with all these pleasant *improvements* in his wife, and went perfectly—except for one little thing. Carol’s husband continued to have fleeting affairs with other women. (Gasp! The succulent dishes weren’t the recipe for faithfulness after all!) no more than before—but also no less. Bitterly disappointed, Carol finally confronted him with evidence of his affairs.

“I’m sorry you had to find out, Carol,” he told her quietly. “I didn’t want you to be hurt. The fact is that love you quite as much as ever. You know that. But I just happen to enjoy a little sexual variety, like any husband. None of these other women means anything to me, and never will. I don’t think you ought to get Victorian about it. It’s simply a fact of married life that wives ought to ignore.” (Yes. That’s what it says.)

Want to know how Carol responds? You gotta click below to find out—and trust me, it’s juicy!

Carol hasn’t divorced him, despite his false philosophy. She still *loves* him, and she also loves her two children, too much to break up their home. But she’s hurt and bewildered by her husband’s second-degree infidelity. She had knocked herself out in the deep-dish apple pie department, without making the slightest dent in his determination to go after stray ladies. The reason was nothing Carol could handle by herself without expert outside help, which she finally obtained through her doctor. She was married to what psychologists called a “varietist,” and her husband had to be helped before he could be the type of husband Carol needed.

Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey notes that many husbands are unfaithful for no other reason than their interest in sexual “variety.” They may stray, he declares without respect to whether sex relations at home are satisfactory or unsatisfactory.

Back in the day, it seems that women accepted this answer. Men simply assumed women were loyal second class citizens, not equals, but sidekicks—riding on the coattails of the male’s adventure.

But what would Dr. Kinsey say if the situation were reversed? Would women simply be labeled as deviants? Would they get committed to an insane asylum, as many women did in those days, against their will, for not conforming to society’s idea of how a “proper” woman behaves?

What would you have done if Carol’s husband was yours? It’s still a prevelant problem, and while most men won’t excuse their behavior the same way Carol’s did, there’s typically some excuse. “I was drunk,” “You barely pay any attention to me anymore,” and so forth. If the husband took responsibilty and said, “It was wrong. I know I hurt you. I’m a jerk and I’m sorry.” Would that make it any better?

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