Installment VII of Cheating Hubby’s from True Story magazine, circa 1920.
In this post, you’ll get the Top 10 Reasons for Husbands to Cheat—in accordance to a study done on 792 married couples. Read on—you’ll never guess what #4 is & #7 will shock you!
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A SOLUTION?
You can do much to help a husband who has Don Juan Syndrome by building up his ego, so that he has greater confidence. Find things you can sincerely admire in his business or trade skill, in his virtues as a husband, in his personality, in his zest as a lover. Tell him about them frequently. If you can diminish his inferiority feelings, he will feel less need to fight against them by seeking reassurance in a series of sexual affairs. However, if your husband does not respond to your remedies, don’t blame yourself. If your husband recognizes his own failings, and is anxious to get rid of them, psychiatric treatment will help.
What about the husband who is guilty of a serious, prolonged affair with another woman—first-degree infidelity? Here you have a major problem on your hands, because this husband’s deepest emotions are involved. “In my opinion,” declares Judge I. Montefiore of N.Y.C. Domestic Relations Court, “the other woman is almost invariably the symptom of an already ailing marriage.”
The fault may be, and probably is, on *both sides* (Remember this if you are ever the offender.). But the remedy is *usually* up to the wife, because she has the most to *gain* as a rule, from preserving her marriage. (Thank you, God, for Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan, and the 60′s.)
“When a wife finds that there is another woman in her husband’s life, Dr. Popenoe advises, “her first action should be, not to treat the symptom, but to find the cause—to find out what this other woman means to her husband; and then remove the cause. It’s the easiest way, often the only way.”
The misunderstood husband who pours out his woes to another woman, and accepts her sympathy as love, is a classic figure. Any man who goes to the trouble of taking a mistress, rather than *simply* being promiscuous, obviously is emotionally dissatisfied with his marriage. His wife may know why. If she does, she can best eliminate the other women by eliminating from her marriage the things that drove her husband to become unfaithful.
